Tuesday, July 26, 2011


Once upon a time like any other stories with happy ending but I think this one doesn't...a young lady devoted her whole life to her family. Her family was not well off and during her teen age she have started to work and she was lucky to find a job as a nurse and she though she does not have much knowledge or proper English language education background, she was offered to undergo trainings. She worked hard and she got through the training and worked as a nurse. At this point I think it looked like a happy ending for this young lady just like the fairytale story but that's just the beginning of her life.
She came from a big family consisting of her mom, two sisters and three brothers. During that time, everyone have settle off their life, getting married and have kids and all. She is a kind hearted lady and when there is a financial need from her siblings, she would try all her best to help without hesitation. She did not get married like all her other siblings does and she adopted a baby girl from a poor family. Along the way of bringing up her adopted daughter, she also adopted her nephew whom her brother did not care of.
No one would ever thought that one day their mother was showing signs of deterioration of physical strength or mental functioning which what we always call "senile". No one wanted to take care of this senile mother, giving all sorts of reasons and left the young lady to take care of their senile mother. She was not young anymore but she did not show much reasoning or hesitation because that was her own mother.  At the start her brother provided some financial help to hire a maid but soon after that, he stopped helping out and as time passed, her mother's mental and physical deterioration gets worst. Her burden doubled without the help of the maid and she needs to take care of her mother's daily needs from shower to food. That's not all she has got to worry of. Her nephew was rather rebellious at his teen age and she had to go around chasing after her nephew to get him back on the education track so that it would ensure a better future for her nephew. 
After three to four years taking care of her senile mother, her mother passed away. Nothing to be happy about but the least is that her burden has lessen and both her adopted daughter and nephew have went out to work. All her life working and at the end of her retirement, she did not own a property and rented an apartment to live with her adopted daughter. 
Her daughter married and they live together with her daughter. Life was fine and her nephew and little brother visited her every month. Everything was good and who would have thought that she would get senile as well. I guess this problem will cause most of your close relatives to "stay away" from you...Her nephew and little brother who visits her every month, stops visiting her and there is once, that her adopted daughter went for a trip and desperately needed care for her adopted mother and placed her at the nephew's place. The sad thing is that this lady's nephew and family could not tolerate her being senile and force her to go home. 
Sometimes I do wonder what this old lady has done for everyone is worth it or not because towards the end of the day, these blood-related relatives just push her away when she is senile...there are many "what if"s in my head; "what if she was not so kind, will she have a better life?", "what if she did not adopted a daughter, will any of her relatives take care of her when she's senile?" and there are simply too many "what if"s for me to ask... 
I just think it's worthless to be kind for these type of people and sorry, I will not follow these foot steps to be kind and serve these kind of people even if I could...if they need help, fine, find another person in this world that have unconditional help with no interest rate and even no returns needed. I guess these people have reached my limit for "forgive and forget"...

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